Why was My Father so Sick to talk to me like this?

I never was allowed to have boyfriends as I grew up because my father always said it would distract me from my schooling. As I became a woman in her 20's, I realised that he didn't want me to have a man period and always seemed jealous, trying to end any relationships I had. Consequently, I remained a virgin until my late 20's. Then, my father was always saying to me..'you have a problem, you are still a virgin..you must have with someone to get over this issue'. I never thought I had an issue.. In the years that followed, he became obsessed and if I even dated a man for a week, my father would apply pressure on me to have with that man, even if I didn't want to. Why was my father such a controlling man who was obsessed what me having . He died a year ago and I hate him ..I feel he was sick. How can any father pressure a daughter to have and why was he so obsessed with what lay between my legs. My father was from the Middle East and was also a very violent controlling man toward my mother during their marriage.